It’s a question we have received from people the world over; friends, family, allies, customers, and interested groups alike. “Where does the money you guys make go?”
It’s simple really. While we have a large online store and offer some of the widest ranges of trans-male oriented clothing, prosthetics, and pride merchandise – we don’t profit from any of our sales. Our primary goal at The Self Made Men is transgender equality through education. We put all of our resources into scheduling, traveling, and attending as many educational opportunities as we can. We use the money we make from sales to pay for gas to get to speaking engagements, panels, and trainings, as well as on conference fees. Additionally, none of the staff members here at The Self Made Men are compensated for their time and effort with the organization.
We strive to spread our message of equality and that message requires funding. Instead of simply asking for donations, we wanted to provide our community with merchandise, clothing, jewelry, and more, that were specifically designed with them in mind. This way, we are keeping our mission alive while giving our community and allies access to products they couldn’t otherwise get.Every year, The Self Made Men participates in a transgender panel at the Wegmans School of Pharmacy at St John Fisher College in front of all first-year pharmacy students. This year’s students wrote reflection papers on their experience of the panel. We were fortunate enough to read through some of their remarks:
· “During the trans panel every preconceived notion I thought and had been told about trans people completely went out the window. While I may not be able to identify or understand the struggle someone in the trans community has gone through, I can say that all of my preconceived thoughts no longer exist and I now have no problem accepting those in the trans community and would have no problem standing up and advocating for their rights.”
· “After being so lucky to have these transgender speakers talk with our class, I will be sure to do my best to work with this community, respect this community and make their experiences with the medical field start to become as normal as possible. The way that they deserve it to be.”
· “I found it amazing to hear their stories and found it extremely eye-opening as a future pharmacist. I think that fear and ignorance are our worst enemies and that panels like this will help to inform people of the diverse world we live in. I think it will be the job of my generation and the next generation to continue to advocate for the fair treatment of all.”
· “We are the new generation of pharmacists, and we will bring acceptance to the work place. My only hope is that no person that walks through a pharmacy door should feel shame or fear for the service that they will receive.”
· “The seminar on the transgender community was one of the most interesting and mind-opening events that I ever attended.”
While we speak on countless panels every year, knowing that we are opening minds and changing perspectives is incredibly affirming. This is what we want to continue to do as The Self Made Men and we can’t do that without a little gas money.So, when you buy something from our store, you are investing in education and you are investing in our communities future.
This week is giving the gay community a ton of exciting opportunity to see change on the federal level. With the possibility of a ruling both on Prop 8 and DOMA this week, federal marriage equality could be in our not so distant future.
“Gay marriage,” though, can be a tough subject among less privileged, and less represented communities within the queer or gay umbrella. This, among others, includes youth, trans* folks, and people of color. Members of these under represented communities face a slightly different struggle on a day to day basis (or at least, typically, the same struggles on a grander scale), which often consists of homelessness, unemployment, poverty, violence, depression, and suicide. To these individuals and communities, marriage equality is not a big concern. Affordable and equal opportunity health care, employment (within a non-discriminating workplace in which the freedom to live one’s own truth is abundant), housing, and safety precede the notion of marrying one’s boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, etc.
However, marriage equality means a lot of different things to a lot of different people, and could lead the way for a more inclusive LGBT rights movement. Marriage equality shows a change in heart within mainstream America (and across the globe) -- signifying that the LGBT community is not so different, and does not need to be treated as “less than” any longer. It says maybe, just maybe, we can start to fight for all the things we should have been granted in the first place. The mainstream gay rights movement has focused on marriage equality for so long, and with such perseverance -- when they succeed, our movement may have a platform from which to truly take off. And hopefully we will have the support of an already successful movement backing us all the way.
This isn’t to say that the trans* community needs to wait to be seen, heard, recognized and fought for. We need to continue to do everything we can, with or without the support of the mainstream gay rights movement. A change in legislation, however, begins to spark a change in culture. Marriage equality means opportunity. It means a change of pace and a chance to step back and remember the basic needs that many in the LGBT community have trouble fulfilling. As we keep moving toward the rights and opportunities we so desperately need, we can hope that every supporter of marriage equality will join us and push for a more inclusive vision of equality.
Another great read on the subject:
By Ari Maxwell Stone
September 2012: In the months preceding my first T shot, I become obsessed with planning the trajectory of my impending body: my sharpened jaw, my broadened shoulders, my secretly welcome tufts of belly hair. I watch Youtube chronologies of guys’ transformations with a religious fervor. They are like tree limbs outstretched in the middle of a whirlpool, something solid to grasp onto. My fifteen-year cycle between agony and apathetic denial has erupted in one pivotal moment: Do I commit to transition, or do I just give up? Is the body -- the life! -- that I long for even possible? I watch these autobiographies unfold on my monitor and see that, in fact, it is.
This is the answer, I think. It saves my life.
March 2013. Acne is multiplying in a red mountain range along my spine. Every other day I am struck with an undirected, angsty nausea. My dysphoria has doubled; I avoid all full length mirrors.
Transitioning (and taking testosterone, specifically) is the best decision I’ve ever made.
So why am I still unhappy?
This is my story, only one out of thousands. The problem was that I had consistently imagined a single script: start T, change everything, feel better. In the early stages of transition, we fixate on the things we anticipate shifting – our physical forms (of course), our emotions, our sexualities (perhaps), the way we move and are perceived in the world. We rarely discuss the leftovers of our former lives, the things that transition won’t touch.
Here are the top 5 things that stay the same. (Don’t worry – it’s not always a bad thing.
And your mileage may vary.)
Time and experience may shift your worldview, but your fundamental ethics are established early in life. It may be essentialist, but I think it’s true: who you are at the core will still be you, just with a killer ‘stache.
I am hopeful that in six months, I won’t be a moody jerk two days a week. And while fluctuating hormone levels have intensified my reactions, I am a prototypical ENTP Sunday through Thursday – cool, calm, collected, and constantly misplacing my keys.
As much as it sometimes makes me squeamish to acknowledge my ‘girl’ past, it is this backdrop that makes me the man I am today. I had subscribed to the conventional doctrine about trans people – that we know (with certainty, from birth!) that we are “trapped” in our bodies, that every gendered experience we’d ever had as children had been grotesque and painful. In the months before my coming out, I sought to re-contextualize certain memories of my adolescence, to illuminate them in a trans light. But how much of that was wishful thinking, wanting to be validated by some mysterious, cis-placating authority that gave me only one story to claim as my own? (Not to mention compacting the entirety of my identity into a single disorder, a disease to be ‘cured’ through shots and surgery). I didn’t always hate being a girl. I just wasn’t a girl. Nevertheless, I wouldn’t be here without twenty-three years of she, her, and hers.
Testosterone is a magical drug, but it’s not a panacea. Depression, anxiety, angst, fear of the unknown, relationship troubles, spiritual dilemmas, low self-esteem – they may or may not diminish as you come into your more authentic self, but they will probably not disappear.
Sorry, but this is just a part of the human experience (granted, the queer/trans experience especially). I am lucky in many ways. While my biological family will likely disown me, I have found enormous support in my web of loved ones, many of whom are also trans dudes.
Yet even among them I am still struck with the pang of being misunderstood, out of place, fundamentally ‘other.’ The harshness of the feeling always subsides. And I have acknowledged, more importantly, that no one can inhabit your skin or your experience. No one can ever truthfully say: “I get it.” This is true of trans and cis people, men and women and everyone in between and outside, parents and mentors and strangers and lovers and friends. At the end of the day, you’ve just got to know and love yourself.
And that never changes.
The flag represents the transgender community and consists of five horizontal stripes: two light blue, two pink, and one white in the center.
Helms describes the meaning of the transgender flag as follows:
Your rights this election season
This year, voting might be even harder for trans* folks than ever before. New, stricter, voter ID laws have been put in place across the nation that could put a stop to many of us being able to exercise our constitutional right to vote. “The Williams Institute at UCLA estimates that more than 25,000 transgender people could lose their right to vote as a result of revises photo ID laws.” (VWT)
Luckily, the National Center for Transgender Equality is on top of the situation and has started a campaign called Voting While Trans.
First and foremost, if you aren’t already registered to vote and have the ability to, you should visit http://www.canivote.org/ to check on your eligibility.
Once you’ve done that, or if you’re already registered in your state of residence, go to the VWT site (http://www.votingwhiletrans.org/) where you’ll find numerous resources at your fingertips:
So get active about your voting rights and check out the Voting While Trans page as soon as you can! This is a critical election year and every vote counts. Don’t let your voice be silenced.
One key thing can be done to avoid this uncomfortable, triggering, or just plain awkward situation. Approaching your teacher(s) ahead of time and letting them know you go by another name and requesting that they follow suit can help ease anxiety surrounding roll call and also put you on a personal level with your teachers before the school year has truly begun.
I am a college student, but these quick tips can be used at the high school or middle school level as well. If you’re in secondary school and you know the teachers or will see them in person before school begins feel free to tell them face-to-face if you want – it can often be beneficial for teachers to put a face to the name they will now be using for you. Same goes for higher ed. if you’ve been at your college/university for a while and know the professors you’ll be taking classes with.
Here’s a simple stock email I used at the beginning of this past semester (names have been removed for privacy purposes):
[Title and name here of professor or teacher],
My name is [name here] and I'm enrolled in your [name of class] course and just wanted to send an email before our first meeting. On your roster my name is [birth name here] but I am transgender so I do not go by or identify with that name.
If you could change my name to [name here, again] and address me using male pronouns I would be very grateful. I have not been able to change my name with school because it is not legally changed as of yet. I'd be happy to answer any questions or speak with you further if need be.
Thank you very much for your understanding. I am very much looking forward to this course.
See you tomorrow in class.
[name here once again]
Most teachers and professors will be very receptive to a request like this and won’t give you any trouble whatsoever.
An important thing to remember when drafting your email is to be direct and respectful. Let them know who you are, what you need from them, and that you appreciate their understanding and actions in advance.
Be proactive and you can avoid the birth name debacle in classrooms from now on!
The first impression you make on a person is often the one that they judge you by until they come to know you better. It's important to try and make a good first impression, especially in the business world. A handshake is often the first form of greeting you exchange with a person, especially in the business world. From a handshake and several other greeting there are things you may be able to tell about a person.
Let's start with the etiquette of a handshake. Handshakes are used in situations
such as when people are being introduced or a deal is being agreed upon. In the American culture, handshakes are firm and made with the right hand. However this is not always true in other cultures. Three things are key when shaking hands; using the correct pressure, eye contact, and a dry hand. The correct pressure is based on many standards. Pressure is different from culture to culture, so it is never good to assume that the way one person shakes your hand will be the same as the next. The rule of thumb about pressure is to gauge the pressure the person you are shaking hands with is using and adjust accordingly. Eye contact is the second key and maybe the most important. When shaking hands, eye contact conveys many positive attributes such as confidence and fellowship. The third key is a dry hand. Situations when you meet others can be very stressful and might cause you to perspire more. A good handshake however is dry. You probably don't want to be remembered as that guy with sweaty palms. If you know you will be meeting someone, take time to make sure your hands are clean and dry. Note also that if you are wearing gloves, these should be removed if possible.
There are several other things that are taken into account in the etiquette of a handshake that although may not be as important as those aforementioned, but remain important to consider. A typical handshake lasts three to four seconds. This may differ depending on whose hand you are shaking. It's more appropriate to stand when shaking hands than to sit. Take the moment when the other person extends their hand to you to stand up first. When you're trying to leave a good impression on someone it is also crucial to smile. Another consideration you should make is whether you should be the one to extend your hand first. Often it is good to extend first to people in your own age group or younger, however it is good form to allow those who are older than yourself to offer first. Some people may not want to shake hands and that is okay too. In most situations you have to play it by ear. Today there are various forms of greeting, from handshakes to knuckle bumps. The best advice is to just be aware of who you are with.
Handshakes can tell a lot about a person's personality. Below are listed some of the ways a handshake can be given and what it may mean. Please note that sometimes the impression you get based on these is not the case and only time will be able to tell if you were right in your assumption.
The main thing to remember when shaking hands is to be polite. Don't forget that your first impression is the last first impression you can make on a person and that it could very well effect any sort of relationship with that person.
How To: Use an electric razor
Whether it's a Whal, Remington or Phillips the instructions are all pretty much the same when it comes to using the dry models. Some types come in wet and dry and we'll talk about those too!
Shaving is a right of passage in both cis and trans men's life. If you've chosen to go the electric route for your manscaping needs the first step is picking out your equipment.
If you're like I was a few weeks ago, you're standing in the store in front of their razor section not knowing one from another. There is a lot of fancy language on the boxes and their packaging was designed to try to win you over the next guys. Here is what you want to look for:
Now you've got your equipment! It can be very helpful to read the instructions on it to kind of get to know your new razor. For instance, mine told me to let it charge for 24 hours before the first use and then to let the battery die before charging it again. This stretches the battery out allowing it to last it's promised time for longer.
Find out how to clean your razor and if it needs any special maintenance regularly.
Ready to shave now? Alright, let's do it.
For this article we'll be talking about the razors with the three circular blades on them.
If you wash your face before hand and rinse it with cold water, your skin will tighten up a bit and your hairs will stand on edge. Then make sure to dry it thoroughly. Turn your razor on and place it to your skin without pressing too hard. Then make small circular motions around your cheeks, upper lip and chin. This motion will also work for your neck and I've found it easier to extend or pull my skin tighter and it'll get a closer shave.
When you get to your jaw line, it's okay to move the razor up and down, the pivoting head will allow you to stay close to your skin.
Check out whether you've missed any spots… Line up those side burns and splash on some aftershave because you've done it! There is a chance of getting razor burn with an electric razor, so make sure you're not pushing too hard against your skin.
Twice a month The Self Made Men opens up article discussions with our Tumblr public. This submission request was based on the theory that a lot of Transmen choose exotic and absurd names for themselves giving others the ability to say "Yeah, you definitely named yourself"
When considering name changes for trans* individuals, the importance of naming is readily apparent. The choice of a name for a trans* person is an affirmation of their identity, a symbolic gesture, showing their friends, family and community who they are. While some trans* people chose names that are “common” or in standard forms, others chose more elaborate, or unique names. Furthermore, a trend in names has developed in the Trans-masculine community: with names like Aiden, Kayden, Hayden and Jayden appearing regularly. Within the trans* community, naming has generated a source of humor, controversy, and accusations. Some claim that names “give away” a person’s trans* identity, or that people are abusing the power to name themselves. Often, however, the importance of a name, or naming process, is lost: we forget to think about the individual behind the name, and perhaps what the name reflects about that person.
First, the “Aiden/Kayden/Hayden/Jayden” debate. Although I can’t speak for all individuals, many people I speak to about the naming process express the importance of the name’s derivation: both meaning, and culture. Many of these names are English or Irish in derivation; perhaps this name choice is a reflection of an individual’s heritage or a tribute to a person’s ancestry. And what about meaning? I did some research into these names, and found a variety of meanings: “little fire,” “fiery,” “fighter,” “thankful,” “from G-d,” and many more. Every one of these meanings could be a reflection on a person’s transition or journey. Another explanation is the importance of tribute through naming. The trans* community is extremely connected, and mentorship is an important part of that, for many trans* people. Perhaps a naming trend reflects an individual’s choice to pay tribute to a mentor or friend within the trans* community.
Next, the debate about elaborate or unique names: similar to the “Aiden” debate, elaborate names may be tied to derivation. Names, as previously stated, are commonly a reflection of identity or journey. A person may chose to express their identity, journey or transition through a variety of names, some of which may be unique. While some may simply want to “blend in” with common or simple names, others may not wish to do so. Rather, some people may prefer to use their names as a different expression of gender and identity. Perhaps they are choosing to reflect their heritage or ancestry, or paying tribute to family member, mentor, or hero. No matter what, an individual’s name is most important to the person bearing it. That person will carry that name for as long as they choose, and, rightfully, should put a great deal of thought and consideration into their choice.
Personally, I have come under fire for my name choice: I’ve been told that both my first and middle name choices (Mason Jackson, respectively) are “stereotypically trans*” and that I should consider more “common names.” The people who said this never once inquired into the thought process or reasoning behind my name; presumably, they didn’t care. These people read my name, saw only the surface, and judged me, based on their perception. Had the inquired, they would learn that my first name was chosen after nearly a year of consideration and conversation with my wife and family. It was chosen because of its similarity to my name prior to transition, as well as the symbolism of a stonemason: the image of building my life, for myself, out of a material that is from the earth that was naturally strong. My parents, with no personal input, gave me my middle name. My grandfather, my personal hero, and one of the greatest men I had the honor of knowing, was named Jack, and acquired the nick-name “Jackson.” My middle name is a tribute to him, and one that I spend every day trying to live up to.
My name is my own – whether it hurts my ability to pass, or is a stereotype in the trans* community, is my concern, and my concern alone. No one should be mocked for their choice in name because, in the end, it was their choice. Every name, no matter how unique or common, has a story; mocking our names degrades these stories, and, honestly, is a form of bullying. I have yet to meet a trans* person who did not put considerable amounts of time or thought into their name. Although you may not have seen that time, nor heard the story behind the name, do not assume that the name was some frivolous choice. The trans* community deals with enough criticism from society – do we really need to worry about criticism from within the community, as well? I sure hope not…. - Mason
Much like our “Lesbians dating Transmen” article, we opened up a topic and had our audience tell us how they felt about it. We recently read an article by Amy Dentata about the differences between dysphoria and negative body image (article found here). Below are three responses to our submission request.
We had the opportunity to take a controversial topic and look at it from two sides. This is one of those questions that comes up a lot and in the end there isn't a right or wrong answer. Everyones life and who they choose to be romantically attracted to, as well as how they choose to identify is and always will be a case by case, personal choice.
The topic was Lesbians dating Transmen and we asked for submissions with a deadline of a week. We had originally wanted three opinions from each side but we'll only be posting one from each as it stands right now. The authors of these articles will remain almost completely anonymous because this isn't a battle and we don't want someone getting offended and pursuing further debates. If you feel like you'd like to debate this topic, the opportunity to do so was to write into this post and has passed. With all of that being said, here are two ways of seeing the Lesbian/Transman dilemma.
Sexual orientation – what is it? Who you’re attracted to, right? So what if you identify as a lesbian and find yourself attracted to a man? What happens then? Do you have to change your orientation for one guy, or two guys? What if it’s a transguy? Are you invalidating their identity by identifying as a lesbian?
Honestly, the word “lesbian” is just that – a word! If you choose to use lesbian to label yourself, then that is your choice. The word lesbian defines a person as someone who is attracted to females, right? But things change don’t they? What if a guy has feminine qualities, or what if a guy just strikes your fancy? Does that change who you are?
This problem happens all the time and creates a lot of crazy frustration and confusion – who am I? Did I lie to everyone? Should I date this person? Is it okay for me to find them attractive? Am I truly a lesbian?
I believe identifying as a lesbian is in fact a personal choice. If you identify as a lesbian and find a transman attractive, that’s all you. As long as you do not invalidate his identity as a man, you can identify as a lesbian all you want. However, this is a discussion you should definitely have with him if you decide to pursue things further – such as dating. If your identifying as lesbian makes him uncomfortable, then that is something to discuss with him. He may be okay with it. I know a guy who identifies as a lesbian and also a transman, so when it comes down to it – it’s really up to him as well as you. Have the conversation, continue having the conversation. Relationships are meant to have tons of communication about different things that may be controversial. Just keep talking about it when it needs to be discussed. You do not need to change your identity, but if you are invalidating him then maybe it’s time to move on. If he keeps invalidating your identity as a lesbian then maybe it’s time to move on.
Life is about taking chances and becoming who you want to be. Don’t feel discouraged from relationships because of your sexual orientation. - JS
To me, if you are in a relationship with a Trans man you simply aren't
a lesbian. If you do define yourself as one, then you're probably viewing your partner as a woman. If so, that's unfair to him and you shouldn't be in a relationship with said person. In terms of going through the transition with him, when he comes out to you, you immediately need to start shifting your view of him. Yes, you may have fallen in love with someone who you saw as a woman but that's not who he is. It isn't that easy at first but in order to be in an honest relationship with him it's what you need to do. If you continue to view your partner as female then you are in a relationship with someone who really isn't there. Not to say you're now with a completely different person but there are changes you have to make in the way you see him.You have to to love him for how he sees himself or else you aren't loving him for who he truly is. You're dating a MAN and if you aren't attracted to men or able to adjust your view of him and stay in love with that person you shouldn't be in the relationship.
That being said, I think sexuality has so much fluidity. I had previously identified as a woman primarily attracted to women before and during the initial stages of my relationship with a Trans man. Dating him opened my eyes to so much. I started finding myself more attracted to men, not just my partner. I think what's important no matter how you label yourself is liking a person for who they identify themselves as. I guess my point is that no matter where you stand on the spectrum, you shouldn't date someone who is Trans unless you are viewing them as a male. In simple terms, if you identify as a Lesbian then you just "went straight" for the Trans guy you're in a relationship with. - BM
If you've ever experienced testosterone coming back out of the injection site, this is a method to stop it from doing that. The article was found through the Art of Transliness blog.
"To give a Z-track injection, use the non-dominant hand to move and hold the skin and subcutaneous tissue about 1-1.5 in (2.5-3.75 cm) laterally from the injection site. Alert patients when the medication is about to be injected. Ask them to breathe through their mouth and to try to relax the muscle to avoid muscle resistance. Continue holding the displaced skin and tissue until after the needle is removed. Dart the syringe rapidly into the site at a 90° angle. Aspirate on the syringe to be sure that a blood vessel has not been penetrated. Inject the medication slowly into the muscle. Be sure that the syringe is completely empty, including the air, before withdrawing the syringe. Withdraw the syringe and immediately release the skin and subcutaneous tissue." (source)
In simple easy terms - slide the section of skin where you're going to inject to one side of another. Insert the needle, inject the testosterone and all the air and then remove the needle and release the skin.
- Unknown AuthorI am a bite sized man
I am a fucking spectacular man.
More quick tips on shooting up (tesosterone)
1. Practice on an orange! - The resistance of an orange peel has been said to be equal to that initial push through skin with a needle. So practicing on an orange can give you an idea of injecting.
2. Don't stop. Typically when you start to inject the needle, there is the resistance we talked about above. If you stop pushing and leave the sharp end of it still fighting against your skin it's going to hurt! If you just simple push straight in at a small enough gage, you can hardly feel it.
3. The needle won't hit your bones. When injecting into your thigh or hip or butt area, you're looking to inject into a large amount of muscle. So the needles have been designed to reach that area while not hitting anything important. No worries.
4. There are plenty of other small things you can do, like play music during your injection, that can help you relax and avoid a panic attack. If your issue is self-injecting rather than simply the shot itself, consider asking a friend or family member to give you your shot for you. - Zak from The Art of Transliness.
(Zak has also compiled a personal list of tips and tricks for relaxing found here)
Public speaking is one of man’s greatest fears, conjuring up images of solo spotlights and big auditoriums crammed full of faceless stiffs who speak only in the occasional cough.
But what about phone calls as a form of public speaking? They can be just as intimidating, especially when it comes to making the right business call. Plenty of make-it-or-break-it company deals are made over the phone.
Here are five tricks for being a pro at business calls:
Ask them about something specific to the area they are in, like maybe the weather in Portland as opposed to your snowy Philadelphia location. Also, even if the phone call is scheduled, it’s good to ask whether it’s still a good time to talk. You want the person on the other end of the call to feel comfortable. Also, it’s great to be direct; ask the person about his or her business and what he or she is looking for pertaining to your role in the possible partnership.
If you’ve met this person briefly before, write down little quirks you can remember. For example, if you gave them a promotional product, mention it: “Hope you’re enjoying that widget.” This personal touch makes the phone call a little easier when breaking the ice. If you haven’t met them before, it’s good to take notes during the call, especially if you will be doing business with them more often. If they mention something personally noteworthy, write it down.
You can also call this step a “script,” but you don’t want it to appear that way. You don’t want to write word for word what you are going to say. If you simply have a list of points, it keeps you on track and focused so that you’re not wasting anyone’s time, and it doesn’t sound like you are reading the phone book. You can even practice your “script” before the call to make sure you come across as casual and confident.
Related to item number 3, you want to make sure you know what you want from the call. How can you achieve a particular outcome? What direction should the conversation go? Plus, if you have a direct point to the call, it keeps the conversation brief (for the most part) and makes it less painful on you and the person on the other end.
Silence can be golden…and painful. If you don’t have an answer to a question or if you need a moment to think through something, take the moment. Or if it’s something you might have to consult others with, politely tell the person on the other line that you have to talk it over with the team.
On a side note: similar to public speaking, some callers use a lot of “ums. . .” and “uhhs” when they speak, which can be distracting to the person on the other line. To get rid of this trait, practice reading a magazine article or pretty much anything out loud. It helps your mind get adjusted to sentences without “uhh”s tossed in.
It’s great to send a follow-up email to the person you speak with, to make sure everyone is on the same page. It’s kind of a nice courtesy, like a post-job interview “Thank You” note. Plus, it gets things down in writing, should there be any confusion about what you spoke about if there are actionable items moving forward.
The double-edged sword when it comes to phone calls versus public speaking is that you can’t see who you are talking to. The best advice is to think of business calls as a little like Catholic confession with a priest: tell them what you’ve done and can do, make a deal with the big man upstairs, and then get out of there.
This should go without saying that you should never reuse any of your needles. Once a needle is inserted into something it becomes more and more dull. Not to say you were thinking of using the same needle all month, but think about it this way... How many times did you put the needle into and out of that rubber stopper? Most of the time, if you ask about it your doctor will prescript two separate needles for your injections. A thicker gage to go into the bottle and to pull the T from it. This is helpful because testosterone is thick and with a smaller needle it can take awhile to get your full dose into the syringe. Then with a twist you can replace the straw-like needle with a thin tiny one to use on yourself. To prevent losing any T in the needle (we've gotten questions about this) just pull a small bubble into the syringe and tap the needle. Don't worry about the bubble killing you (we've gotten questions about that too) this isn't going into your veins or blood stream so you're safe.
Final note. Limit your needle point usage to inevitably make injection less painful.
Don't reuse your needles.
One last tip: Try using a soda bottle as your sharps container.
Hey Boys - If you ever have trouble doing your T shot try this trick out:
Put pressure near the spot that’s about to get the needle and you’ll feel it less. Just make a circle with your thumb and forefinger and push down a few seconds before the shot. This technique overrides nearby nerves, making the shot feel more like a gentle poke.
Submitted by Noah Wagoner
We all see/receive hate comments on YouTube videos. I get them, I see them all over the place - one particular video that has over 160,000 views received 25 hate messages from the same troll. Here’s some info on how to report them as hate speech, in addition to just voting them down.