In ever Packer family, there are at least 2 if not 3 or 4 different sizes. This article is not a review of any particular packer, but more so a guide to picking the size that's right for your body and comfort.
"A survey by sexologists showed that many men who believed that their penis was of inadequate size had average-sized penises. Another study found sex education of standard penile measurements to be helpful and relieving for patients concerned about small penis size, most of whom had incorrect beliefs of what is considered medically normal. The perception of having a large penis is linked to higher self-esteem.
Measurements vary, with studies that rely on self-measurement reporting a significantly higher average than those with staff measuring. However, the mean of an erect human penis is approximately 12.9–15.0 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length. One study found the mean flaccid penis length to be 3.5 inches. A review of several studies found average flaccid length to be 9–10 cm (3.5–3.9 in). A statistically significant correlation between penis size and the size of other body parts has not been found in research." Wikipedia
So if the average flaccid (meaning soft) penis length for cisgender males is 3.5", we have to wonder why the 3.5" Mr Limpy is nicknamed their "extra small".
In the Limpy family, soft packers range from 3.5" - 8.5". That is a non-erect penis prosthetic that almost doubles the average length of an erect cisgender penis.
Before ordering your packer, take a look at a ruler. Many people underestimate the size of 3.5 inches and it'll be really helpful to just move up the lengths on a ruler for visual confirmation.
Circumference isn't as big of a deal with packers, as it is with sexual prosthetics. Typically all packers are generally the same width/circumference. For another visual, try cutting a piece of paper to the dimensions of the one you have in mind and then rolling it into a model. How does that model compare to what you thought an extra small, or small Mr Limpy would look like?
The shaft of the penis is important, but not the only important thing to consider. The difference with packing just between the 3.5" and the 5" is that with the 3.5" the shaft is going to lay against the balls the entire length. While with the 5" it'll hang down lower and you'll need to figure out how it's comfortable to situate in your underwear or pants.
The balls are definitely the next thing to consider. On the 3.5" they're slightly more prominent than on the higher length models. This is going to give you a bulge if you're packing up higher than recommended.
Where is recommended? Naturally a lot of guys just strap on their harness and let it hang where it wants. However, if you thought about this logically and base it off of your own biological anatomy, the circular section where the shaft begins should line up with your ftm penis (or bits, or baby penis, or clitoris - however you choose to identify it). The common mistake here puts many guys wearing theirs up much higher than natural and causing a rather large bulge.
So lets recap! An average flaccid cispenis is 3.5" and an average size erect cispenis is about 5.5"-6". Make sure you check out a ruler and get a good visual of your length choice. Positioning is a big point, as well as harness type. With that said - Get your packer on!
Once a human with female anatomy hits a certain age, or becomes sexual active, a pelvic exam has the power to save their life. Cervical cancer is treatable when caught early and effects both ciswomen and transmen.
Now for everyone this kind of exam is not something they're particularly looking forward to, but for people with body and genital dysphoria, it can be a living nightmare. There are some ways to getting to a better mental state to deal with this, such as pretending it's a prostate exam, or using meditation to remove yourself from the situation and experience. The rest of this article, however is going to give you some insight into the typical procedure incase this is your first time going.
We're going to skip right to the doctors office, bypassing the waiting room and initial check up semantics. You're in that awful backless gown, on your back with your heels in those stirrups. The doctor is going to use a device called a spectrum, it looks like a duck honestly… it's job is to open the space enough to take a culture sample of your crevice without having it touch everything else on the way in or out. This is where any pain or discomfort will be the worst, especially if you've never had penetrative sex, but not horrible.
After the culture, the device is removed. The doctor will insert a finger and move to the left and right sides, using his or her hand on the outside of your body to check for lumps around your ovaries.
And you're done.
Get out of that silly gown and get home knowing that you did something good for your body by making sure you got your equipment checked out. Many a Transman has neglected themselves and had serious side effects of their body dysphoria. You don't need your anatomy now to ruin your future and who you plan to become.
As a FAAB Transman, there has been a particular body part missing in your life. Now thanks to an internet site or a trip to the sex toy shop or a new exciting purchase, you're finding yourself with a bit more in your pants these days. Like with most articles on The Big Brother Program, we're going to split this one into three and discuss how to take care of a packing penis, peeing penis and a sexual prosthetic penis.
Why do I need to know how to take care of these? The material that they're both made of are not for long term extended use and most of them are on the expensive side. The better you take care of yours the longer it'll last and better quality it will be in. Another reason to take care of your new external body parts is that they're kind of just that… A lot of guys feel a bond with their penises as if they truly are a part of them. We're going to assume you take a shower and brush your teeth, this article is the equivalent of those tasks for your penis.
The Packing Penis: A packing penis is pretty standard no matter where you get it from. It's made of a loose, squishy material to simulate real flesh. When washed, the rubber can become somewhat sticky in nature and a Trans* culture tip for taking care of this is to use body powder of some sort. This will return the packer to it's normal, not sticky texture. This will also extend the life of your packer, and make it so less boxer/underwear lint is attracted to it.
Washing your packer should be something that we don't have to mention in this article, but here we are doing it anyway. Wash it every time you use it… This is something that is sitting against you, covered in sweat throughout the day and can leave you smelling like rubber and sweat. It's going to start to smell bad if you don't wash it regularly. Not to mention, extended periods of not washing it can increase bacteria down there and could potentially lead to nasty things like UTIs. Also remember to wash your harnesses regularly as well.
Things that can happen with your packer: Sometimes even with a harness things can move around during the day. A common annoyance for all those that pack and all those MAAB guys as well, is adjusting yourself in public. This becomes an even bigger issue when your packer is suddenly headed down your leg and off to go find itself in the big city. If there is a bathroom close and you're wearing socks, simply tuck your pant leg into your sock of the leg it's choosing for it's escape route and head to the bathroom. A tucked in pant leg is going to be a lot less embarrassing for the moment than Mr Limpy hitting the floor.
The Peeing Penis: Much like a packing penis, a peeing penis has generally the same rules and maintenance required. For an STP (stand to Pee) device, most companies use a packing penis and insert a tube with a cup at the end to create the ability to pee through it. This tube and cup are a new thing to make sure stays clean. It's not required that you wash it after you every use or it would become a public inconvenience, eh? After your business, slide the edge of the medicine spoon like tip across yourself to remove any extra liquid on you and then shake the penis slightly so that it all goes out into the toilet. If you feel the need, use a bit of toilet paper to dry off the spoon part. Then when you get home and your showering or getting ready for bed, simply rinse the tubing with warm water. Body powder after washing, like with the packers, will extend your penis' life and decrease the sticky feeling.
Things that can happen with your STP: If you feel the need to remove the tubing from your STP and turn it into a packer, trying to put the tubing back in later can prove to be difficult. A sticky rubber on the inside can cause the tubing not to just slide back in and you'll have to stretch out the hole at the tip where your flow comes out in order to reinsert your tubing. This stretch may alter the hole and cause your future stream to go to the left, to the right or perhaps not in a straight stream at all. It's recommended that you not take the tubing out yourself unless you're 100% sure you want just a packer.
The Sexual Prosthetic: Because this particular penis will be in contact with not only you but a sexual partner, washing this one is a must. If it's available, a dishwasher will clean and sanitize any objects with a sexual function (I wouldn't put in the vibrating ones or any with electronic features). If the family dishwasher is a no-go, warm water and soap is a good second. Wash this after every use. An STD CAN be carried on a sexual prosthetic penis. Some STDs and STIs have a out of body life that can turn your penis into a method of transmitting. If available, it's a good idea to wear a condom. Even if you have a monogamous relationship, washing your junk is just common courtesy. Body powder, again, will keep it from that sticky feeling and extend it's life. (see this article for more tips on safe sex)
Another thing to think about with sexual prosthetics is your O ring. A lot of sexual fluid can surround your O ring of your harness and build up, it's not typically a place we remember to clean.
Things that can happen with your sexual prosthetic: It can break. Ask Noah for that story… If you waistband a hard penis under your jeans and the tension between your harness and the tip is great enough, the silicone can literally snap in half. There is no way to glue it, melt it or repair it.
Another: It can discolor. If your penis is laying on something with a good amount of ink or dye, it can rub off and permanently mark your penis. For example, if it's on a cereal box, or a package of some sort. If it's inside of a brand new luggage (speaking from experience). If you place it on a piece of art work on accident, or a crayon comes in contact for long periods of time… All of these things can dye the rubber and leave a mark on it.
Another: It can melt. This is true for all penises we've mentioned today. Under any amount of heat these things can melt… Whether you've left them next to your heater at home, or in a box in your car in the summer. They can melt and deform.
You can prevent both melting and discoloration by having a special place for your equipment. An idea for this is to save the cloth bags that sheet sets come in and use those for storage. Try a tackle box or shoe box (though those will absorb any lube used and create oil marks on the box).
A general guideline and ethnical rule about penises: Though these objects may be new and exciting, not everyone is going to want to see your penis. Be aware of who you're showing, specially if you or the viewer has a significant other. Respect the fact that this is your penis and it's an intimate part of you now and typically abide by the same rules a cis guy would. Aka, try not to whip it out at parties or expose yourself inappropriately.
Remember - wash it regularly, store it safely and powder up!
I can't promise you that this article you're about to read is 100% inclusive to everyone that is reading it. I also can not promise that it's 100% politically correct, I'll be using words and phrases that are explicit and sexual. This article is intended to give insight into a method of sexual intercourse for transmen whose clitoris has enlarged due to testosterone therapy. To give some advice toward having sex without a prosthetic, and with your own personal body parts. As far as terminology goes, for the rest of this article I'll be referring to a trans male, post-HRT (hormone replacement therapy) clitoris as a penis. I will also be directing this mainly at those having sex with FAAB bodies.
Here we go! (A little super bowl humor) - Once a transman is on hormones and his penis starts to develop, the sensation of an erection is more and more noticeable. This can happen every morning, when aroused or randomly throughout the day where we secretly and only for a tiny second, thank whoever that we're not cis and the situation isn't as embarrassing as it could be! So during sexual activities, the penis fills with blood and sticks out a lot further than it once did. This can be anywhere from half an inch to three or four depending on a number of things. This extra length provided can lead to the possibility of penetration with your partner. If you feel as if you don't have the length needed, you would be surprised how much you can feel just by being in close proximity.
The obstacles before us is a combination of length, verses body placement and comfortability. The very best way to try all of these is to do just that… try them. A position suggestion can work for you or not, and the only way you'll figure out what does work for you is to allow yourself to try them. So here we go with two classic positions that with a bit of practice are ideal for penetration with your anatomy.
Cowgirl: By laying on your back you've angled your penis just slightly downward. When your partner straddles your hips, they should line up to where you're able to feel the interaction. A tip here is to use your pelvic bone to help push your penis upward as needed. If you can't get it to line up, try using a pillow under your butt. The typical motion needed in this position is less of an up and down and more of a back and forth, so that your consistently lined up. Practice and the right motion for you will be the key to this position. This also works with reverse cowgirl but requires some leaning.
Missionary Variation: Picture this… Missionary position, then sit up on your knees. With this position, the wider you spread your legs apart the further your penis is going to stick out. For this one, the trick is moving your partners legs and getting close enough to be able to feel penetration. For some assistance, try placing a pillow under your partners butt to raise or angle things right.
These two positions, coupled with oral and manual options are all ways to use our own biological equipment during sexual activity. Beyond the actual act of these positions, please be sure to practice safe sex and be tested as often as possible. The options of safe sex for female bodied couples are considerably less but there are options. Also be sure to respect both you and your partners boundaries and be sure to keep yourself comfortable.
Stay tuned for our next article on clever ways to masturbate without trigger dysphoria!
By Tyler Sliker
I work full time as a sexual health educator, and I frequently feel some hypocrisy in what I teach as I don’t remember the last time I had safe sex. It’s not that I don’t worry about my health and safety or my partner’s health and safety, it’s just that the safe sex options out there are limiting for my sexual behavior and sometime deny my gender identity.
When it comes to oral sex, the most obvious barrier method for transmen would be a dental dam. This offers protection during the fun — however, dental dams are marketed to provide protection when performing oral sex on a woman. What man/transman wants his partner to use a dental dam for his junk? I don’t, that’s for sure. Here’s the alternative: cut a non-lubricated male (external) condom up the side so it opens up to a sheet of latex similar to a dental dam. It offers the same protection, but you’re using a male condom. You’re staying safe, while maintaining your male identity.
Unfortunately, there is at least one sexual behavior out there that doesn’t have a possible barrier method to be used. Transmen having penile-vaginal sex without a toy. (When the clitoris [I prefer ‘penis’] enlarges due to testosterone, and swells even more because of arousal, penetrative PV sex can occur). An external condom is too big for your junk and a dental dam would slide around during thrusting. Suggestion? Make sure you and your partner are tested and know your status. This may not be a sexual behavior that you and your partner can engage in and stay healthy.
For transwomen on the giving end of penetrative sex. You may not want to use a male condom… because they’re marketed and designed for men. I can’t blame you. I wouldn’t want to use one either. Here’s a suggestion to stay safe while maintaining your female identity (though it isn’t full proof depending on the identity of your partner). Have him/her/their use a female, or internal, condom. Same dilemma as above, it’s traditionally marketed for women, so if you have a male partner it may be difficult. But talk to your partner, about how you want to be safe but don’t feel comfortable wearing a male condom, and maybe he’ll be willing to use a female/internal condom. You can remove the ring on the inside of the condom for anal sex, but keep it in for vaginal sex.
This isn’t an exhaustive list of sexual behaviors or dilemmas for trans individuals wanting to engage in safe sex, but it’s a start. Barriers in general aren’t very conducive to sex/gender divide. The names of the barriers imply men have to have penises, only and women have to have vaginas, only. Changing male condoms to external condoms and female condoms to internal condoms may help to alleviate some of the identity-denying that occurs with barrier methods.